Still caveman mentality in the work world

 

It’s a boy, It’s a game (player), it’s an emotional headache – No wait….. It’s a MAN

After doing in-depth analysis on different relationships with men in my life, I have come to the conclusion that some men lack maturity, in it’s entirety;pointblank!

I have seen it in my personal dating life with men who  have the communication skills of about mmmmm.. 0 and the respect and chivalry is non-existent. Hey, I’m not looking for the whole ring my door bell, bring flowers on first date , but, come on, put a little effort in here guys. Us ladies know that giving a good first impression is so important and we actually get excited for dates so we can look sexy, smell good and feel confident for ourselves and for our date. Guys seem to lack any “effort chip” in the dating world these days and is a major turn-off for us sexy ladies who have wasted a perfectly great night to meet someone else.

On a deeper level, I have noticed that some guys actually revert back to the whole “high school” mentality and just love playing game. Note to Men and Men in training: If there is something on your mind, say it. We are not mind readers and the key to any relationship, friendship, marriage, whatever, is communication. While you might be thinking the other person is thinking one thing, in reality, they could be thinking the complete opposite. With this notion, you will be acting upon a false assumption leaving situations unresolved and miss-communications will become more frequent resulting in a rift in the relationship. Seems that people take for granted good relationships in their life because they are too scared of what feelings might come from the growth of the relationship, in a good or bad way. Many men seem to just retract, hide and avoid any of these feelings leaving so they don’t have to go outside their comfort zone. The other person (the woman) is in the dark, being pushed away and saddened by the redefined friendship that has been created by the fears, internal struggles or confusion coming from the man. Woman are natural nurturers and ofcourse we are extremely intelligent species, so it is quite easy to pick up on when a guy is pulling back and acting “off” and it’s just a shame that only if they could be honest with and the person, the drifting of that relationship would not have to take place. Good friendships between a guy and girl are really to be cherished as its a complimentary friendship especially when there is honesty and respect. It is a major turn off when men completely put up the smoke screen (As if we don’t recognize it!) and unable to enjoy the beauty of a mutually appreciated friendship.

As a strong woman, who is an open book to the close people in my life, I’m learning that I cannot change people, nor do I want to. I have great men in my life on all different levels and I am keeping my heart open for a real man to share my life with on the romance level. To protect myself from these breed of men , I am no longer wasting energy in any romantic interests, friendships or relationships with a man who is simply a boy dressed up in a Man’s suit and tie. 

Why are there so many 30 year old BOYS???

Seriously??????????? What happened to the scenario where guys have chivalry? Have loyalty? Morals about marriage? Courting a woman?

The bulk of the guys I have met lately have been 100% BOYS!!! 30-year-old guys not knowing what they want, having no regards to womans’ respects or normal expectations.  I feel that a lot of the guys I have met are simply BOYS. No expectations for looking for something serious or profound. These “boys” exhibit actions and mannerisms showing that they are not looking for any serious relationships and at the same time, show no respect for a woman. What happened to the days where men would be married at 25, supporting their family and showing chivalry, courting a lady for a date? Does that still exist??? Am I looking in the wrong places? Any input, please???