How many of you are reading this and angrily reminiscing of the time when you were in this predicament? You invested your time getting to know someone, shared countless conversations with them, intimate details only to find out in the end, they were not who they claimed to be. This epidemic seems to becoming more rampant now not only in the online dating world, but in the online social media world as well. I have personally experienced a situation where I took a chance on a prospective romantic suitor, which is scary enough for me as it is, opened up myself to him and agreed to going on a date. I was super excited since we hit it off, had great conversations, flirtatious banter and we both were attracted to each others pictures. The morning of the date, he texted me about his excitement about meeting me and he’d see me at 8pm at the restaurant. I got there about 10 minutes to eight and texted him to let him know I was sitting at the bar, but, didn’t get a response. I called , went straight to voicemail…… It’s now 9pm, I was sipping my second vodka on the rocks at the bar accepting the fact this guy was not showing up. I felt crushed, embarrassed and angry. The next day, I decided to do some investigation. I uploaded a few pictures he sent me into google to see what showed up….well, let’s just say he is NOT a famous Columbian soccer player, which was the match for the pics this guy sent me…I felt beyond duped. Checked his profile on the dating site where we met and it was deleted. Clearly, it made sense that those weren’t his pictures and who knows what was actually real since he stood me up, never returned my texts or calls and never heard from him again. It was hard to comprehend why someone would take weeks to get to know me, for what? Was it for some weird deranged thrill ? Was it the attention he was getting from me? Did he ever plan on even meeting me? I still ponder…
I have been hearing more and more about stories like this or simply people using other peoples photos as their own and enjoying the praise of compliments. What the “Catfishers” of the world might not understand is that what they are doing is extremely abusive, hurtful and very violating to the people they prey on. Especially in this day and age, it is beyond insensitive to mislead people into thinking they are someone they are not because it ends up breaking their trust, ego and confidence. IT IS CRUEL… I truly believe people who engage in this fraudulent act have either emotional or psychological issues they should recognize and get help. Playing with peoples emotions is extremely harmful and can cause long lasting damage, not to mention, trust issues with future relationships.
If you see something, say something. If you know someone is catfishing someone , the humanly thing to do is to share your knowledge and prevent someone who is opening their heart either romantically or as a friend, from being another Catfish victim.